Panel discusses overcommunication in dating

By Grace Ostuni
Staff Writer

A panel about the importance of overcommunication in regards to dating gathered on Oct. 26 at 7:30 p.m. to discuss its importance in forming and maintaining relationships.

The panel was hosted by psychology professor Zach Stueve, social work professor Katie Holler and Title IX coordinator and protection officer Annie Booth.

Stueve began the talk with a general conversation on what overcommunication is and how it benefits dating.

Before working at Franciscan University, Stueve worked in the relationship’s lab at Carnegie Melon, researching what makes some marriages last longer than others.

“It was the couples who were able to have emotional support seeking as well as emotional support giving,” said Stueve. “Relationships are successful when they talk extensively about what is going on in reality and what is going on the mind of the partner.”

The panel then discussed all stages of dating, from asking someone out on a date through dating until engagement.

Holler spoke on the importance of communication before asking the question. She stated the importance of being very clear in intentions, but to first ensure there is a basis for a relationship.

“The first time you ask them on a date should not be the first time you talk to them … there is no context for that communication,” stated Holler.

Stueve continued the talk by saying that there is clear research on how to have a successful relationship.

“Men and women should be able to communicate their feelings and know that they will be received,” said Stueve.

Booth added, “You can’t anticipate that someone is going to know what you need to make yourself feel secure in a relationship … we should not be scared to share what we’re expecting and what we need.”

Junior business major Paul Fuerst, said, “I appreciated how straightforward the speakers were about issues that could be negatively impacting the dating culture here, but also how they provided good tips and advice for how these issues can be resolved in a healthy manner.”