Although many Franciscan students are aware of the five love languages, most do not know how to practically apply the love languages to college dating. 

The Psychology Club discussed this on Feb. 2, sharing practical tips for college relationships. The event, which took place from 7:30 to 8:30 p.m. in the Household Commons, summarized these love languages and guided attending college sweethearts hoping to implement them. 

While attendees munched on free pizza, club president Gordon Kalamasz explained each of the love languages, starting with physical touch. He said that physical touch is divided into two “dialects”: private displays of affection, such as a hug after a long day, and public displays of affection, commonly referred to as PDA.

Kalamasz emphasized that college sweethearts should investigate what level of PDA their partner is comfortable with. Even if one partner’s love language is physical touch, they may not enjoy strolling arm in arm through Egan Hall. Additionally, he reminded attendees that PDA should be restricted within guidelines of Catholic chastity. 

Next, Kalamasz pointed out that the second love language, words of affirmation, goes beyond simple compliments. He reminded students that the more specific the compliment, the more butterflies. For example, instead of telling a girlfriend, “you look pretty,” saying instead “I love how cute and shiny your curls are” could make her swoon with joy. (Take note, gentlemen.) 

When discussing the third love language, quality time, Kalamasz shared an essential tip. He said that college students are notoriously addicted to their phones, even pulling them out on dates. Refusing to let their phones interfere with one-on-one time can help ensure the quality time love language is properly achieved. 

The fourth love language, gift giving, can be difficult for broke college students. Inexpensive but intentional gifts like homemade cards or favorite foods are often appreciated. However, Kalamasz said that, beyond material presents, couples can give each other their time. For example, if a boyfriend is stressed about a biology test, his girlfriend could give her time by providing emotional support. 

Lastly, Kalamasz explained that acts of service, the fifth love language, involves caring deeds. For college couples, loving actions could include tidying a dorm room together or helping each other study for a test. 

Kalamasz recommended that couples identify their love languages and implement them into everyday interactions, asking each other, “What can I do to make you 1% happier?” According to Kalamasz, couples should make each other feel happier and more deeply understood and loved. 

He helped attendees begin this process by pointing them to the official love languages quiz at 5lovelanguages.com. After attendees took this quiz and listened to his presentation, Kalamasz led them in a short group discussion about the love languages. Finally, the Psychology Club raffled off a copy of the book The 5 Love Languages: the Secret to Love that Lasts by Dr. Gary Chapman. 

With all these resources, attendees were well prepared to apply the 5 love languages to their dating life, hopefully helping their relationships thrive.