So, you have a crush on someone. It’s alright, it happens to the very best of us. You finally mustered up enough strength to “drop the handkerchief” or ask them out on a first date, and they said yes!

But now that the first hurdle is over, another concern arises. What exactly is one supposed to do on a first date?

While there is no easy answer to combat nerves and awkwardness, there are certainly some things to keep in mind. Franciscan University students were interviewed anonymously about their first date experiences and dating culture on campus and were asked for tips on how to have an excellent first date.

First, for both men and women (but mostly for the men), the ladies of Franciscan University offered their advice:

1. “Don’t worry about spending a lot of money on going out to dinner on a first date. We’re all broke college students so the other person will understand. It allows the guy to get creative in how he’s going to take the girl out, making the date more memorable.”
2. “It could be a good idea to politely ask them about themselves or ask them about their future aspirations if looking for a conversation topic.”
3. “For a first date it’s important to do something where you’ll have the chance to get to know the other person better and hopefully become closer. Personally, I like to go out and do an activity and then get food after. Just show up as yourself and don’t worry if it’s not the best first date – you’re still getting to know this person.”
4. “Be open about yourself and what you look for in a partner. With a good person for you, conversation should flow naturally. Look for what is compatible between you two and what isn’t.”
5. “Clarify that it’s a date! No girl wants to think it’s a date and find out it’s a “hang out”. For practical tips, consider buying her flowers. Both parties have to be alright with the fact that they may not be compatible and not get mad with the other if the other doesn’t end up feeling the same.”
6. “A first date doesn’t mean a commitment; it’s an intentional time to get to know someone and discern whether this is a relationship you’re meant to pursue. Be present in the moment, listen well and treat the other person with respect.”

The men, as well, had some words of wisdom:

1. “I think the process of dating begins before the first date. It begins as soon as you recognize an attraction you have for them. Once you go on the first date, you both decide together what your relationship will be. Did the date turn out well? Or would you be better off as friends?”
2. “Dating shouldn’t be rushed. But when it is time, something wholesome and fun is a great start. There are so many activities on campus, such as swing dancing, which can be a really great way to spend time with the person you’re interested in.”
3. “Pay, get every door, bring flowers, compliment. The obvious ones. Maybe think about what you’re going to say a little beforehand.”
4. “It’s not entirely necessary, but I feel as if you have to start off with flowers and have them wrapped if you buy them at a grocery store. Open every single door and pay for the meal if you go out to eat. Be on time for sure. Act like your phone is not there and do not go on it or act distracted by it.”

First date nerves are natural, but they don’t have to be consuming! With these tips, and your own judgement, hopefully you can breathe a little bit more, and enjoy your first date!